# The Enigma of Absurd Social Norms

The institution of the church has long been a bastion of tradition and social norms, often imposing strict guidelines on its followers. However, some of these norms seem to defy logical explanation, particularly when viewed through a secular lens. Two such examples are the limitations on marriage and physical intimacy. In this article, we will delve into the possible reasons behind these restrictions and explore the potential motivations of the church.

## The Malthusian Trap and Marriage

One of the most perplexing restrictions imposed by the church is the limitation of marriage to between a man and a woman. This stance raises questions about the church's understanding of population growth and the potential consequences of such limitations. The Malthusian trap, which suggests that population growth will eventually outstrip resource availability, is a well-documented concept in economics. However, the church's founders do not appear to have considered this concept when establishing their doctrine. So, why restrict marriage options, potentially reducing population growth? Is it a matter of control?

Control is a plausible explanation, but the motivations behind it are less clear. If the goal is to promote a specific controlling moral agenda, why not allow for diverse forms of marriage within a consumerist society, as long as they do not harm others? The answer may lie in the church's desire to maintain influence over its followers within an authoritarian setting.

## The Limitations on Physical Intimacy

Another area where the church's stance seems puzzling is in its restrictions on physical intimacy. Human touch and physical affection are essential aspects of human connection. A 4-minute cuddle, for example, can release oxytocin and promote intense feelings of love and pleasure. So, why limit such interactions?

One possible explanation is that the church seeks to create a sense of dissatisfaction or unhappiness among its followers. When people are unhappy, they may be more likely to seek solace in the church, which can then offer them a sense of comfort and community. By restricting physical intimacy, the church may be creating a sense of longing or deprivation, which can be exploited to maintain control over its followers.

## The Need for Control

Contradictory religious texts, that are difficult to interpret and justify through secular reasoning, often provide the foundation for the church's social norms. It is possible that the primary motivation behind these texts is the need for control, rather than any genuine concern for the well-being of followers. By creating a sense of guilt or shame around certain behaviors, the church can maintain its influence and authority over its followers within a paternalistic setting.